RECONCILIATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN

1. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you failed them as a Father/Mother.

2. Ask the Lord to forgive you for these things.

3. Ask them what the relationship meter factor is with you. From their heart and not their head! Their head will say all is well, you didn't do anything to hurt them.

4. Ask them why it isn't a 10

5. Be prepared to hear stuff you weren't aware of, stuff that will surprise you.

6. Write them down.

7. Take responsibility for each one. NO EXCUSES! Just admit to them that you are sorry for that event and that you take responsibility for being distant, not there for them, for hurting them, for confusing them, for blaming others for your mistakes and sin. Take responsibility for the event. You should have protected them, affirmed them, blessed them, loved them, spent time with them and you didn't...

8. ASK them say to you, "Dad, I purpose and chose to forgive you for this from my heart as an act of my free will."

9. Be responsible for each event. Each seed that was planted in their life by you the Father.

10. Bring up the events that the Holy Spirit showed you in step one of this process.

11. ASK them to forgive you. See step 8.

12. When finished, affirm them. Tell them they can talk to you about ANYTHING, ANYTIME, ANYWHERE. And that you will not dis them or ignore them in anyway.

13. Bless them! Read about the Patriarch's blessing of their descendents, including the blessing from God the Father to the Father of Nations (Abraham) Genesis 22.

14. Bless them more than once...

15. Tell them you are committed to make it a '10' relationship with you